Thank you Lady Gaga!
by Lori Revels
1st of all I want to share my Wall of Aspies album and links with you all.
My 12 year old daughter H has aspergers, my 11 year old daughter KA is neurotypical, my 9 year old son L has Autism and my 5 year old son KQ has a heavy dose of ADHD. I am a single mom and their dad is far far away. This story will be about my oldest H.
We lived in Hawaii for a while and my kids attended the public school there. H fell behind but was not held back so she struggled the next year. This was a few years ago, btw, it was her 5th grade year. During that year she was in a class with all Hawaiians and Orientals. There were about two or three white kids in her class besides her. The children were very racist and the white kids didn't like her cause she didn't know about Bionicals. She had a nervous cough for about half the school year and the children decided she had germs and would actually warn new kids to stay away from her so she didn't have a chance.
We moved to Kalamazoo where she repeated the 5th year. As usual she made friends fast and lost them just as fast. She was being bullied every day at recess and even was expelled once for standing up for herself. Somewhere along the line the bullying didn't make her feel bad anymore.
I asked her how she managed to not let the bullying get to her and she told me that whenever someone made fun of her she would just think about Lady Gaga and how she was made fun of as a kid too and just look at where she is now! That really blessed my heart and I will forever be a fan of Lady Gaga for helping my daughter cope through those very dark days.
Things soon turned around for her at that same school. Her school vice principal and counselor took her under her wing and began teaching her skills for kids with aspergers. As they progressed she would have various students come in and help with H's lessons. Soon the kids eased up on the bullying and H started making friends. Often when you give a bully a purpose they stop bullying! H's grade started improving as well.
H learned self confidence through those lessons and is a rock still today even though we moved to a different state. There isn't much that bothers her any more. Her social skills are still lacking and with a lot of trial and error and referrals giving me referrals we have finally landed in a counseling group that looks like it will be a lot of help.
I want to add that H just brought home her report card and has five A's and the rest of the grades are all very good!
The future is getting brighter...Finally!